Barry Johnson-Fay, M.A., J.D.

A graduate of Yale Law School, Barry Johnson-Fay is a former trial lawyer with extensive experience in both civil and criminal litigation, as well as family law. After 22 years of legal practice in Connecticut, he became an educator and was a public school teacher in Connecticut and Colorado for 12 years. Barry received his B.A and M.A. in Philosophy from the University of Colorado, Boulder.

He has received training in Marshall Rosenberg’s model of “Nonviolent Communication,” a “Language of Compassion,” (, and with his wife, the Rev. Dr. Ellen Johnson-Fay, has introduced many individuals and groups to this form of enhanced, compassionate communication which focuses on identifying feelings and meeting deep personal needs. He brings rich and diverse life experiences as well as new approaches and strategies to conflict resolution and interpersonal communication.

The Rev. Dr. Ellen Johnson-Fay

The Rev. Dr. Ellen Johnson-Fay is Minister Emerita of All Souls Unitarian Universalist Church in Colorado Springs. She has participated in numerous trainings on Marshall Rosenberg’s teachings of Nonviolent Communication, and with her husband, Barry Johnson-Fay, has introduced this new and effective method of communication to many individuals and groups.  

Ellen brings to Spiritual Direction an appreciation of diverse religious perspectives. She completed her training in Spiritual Direction at Benet Pines Retreat Center in 2002 and is a certified member of Spiritual Directors International. Ellen’s spiritual practice is informed by her Jewish roots, the influence of prophetic and poetic voices through the ages, Buddhist wisdom, and Compassionate Communication. She is certified to administer the Meyers-Briggs Type Inventory.

As an ordained minister, Ellen can officiate at weddings and offers pre-marital and marital counseling.